What are the reasons for sexual abuse?
It’s all about power and control. And people needing to be in control. And sometimes people who feel like they have no control find it easier to exercise control over somebody who has less control, such as a child. It has almost nothing to do with sex; it has something to do with power and the abuse of that power. But there is another thing I want to get to that I think is very important and under-emphasized. Reggie is the name of the character who abused Michelle, but the real drama is between Michelle and her mother, Cassie, because this is where the unbelievable anger is levied. Cassie is the person Michelle told who wouldn’t believe her. And that was one of the things I had to learn–that it has as much to do with the man who abused as it does with the caregiver who wouldn’t believe the victim. “You trusted him over me. I must be worthless. It’s not enough that he has deflowered me, you have destroyed me because I came to you and you said I wasn’t even important enough to pay atten
