Did he have an affair?
He probably did have an affair. However, the woman in question now lives in a different country. His depression at losing her means that he was attached to her emotionally. Both these things are good news. The first because you can be sure that it’s over and can never be picked back up in the future. The second for two reasons: 1. an emotional affair means that the problem at home is that you two weren’t close at the time and he didn’t feel he could talk to you, didn’t feel you understood him, didn’t feel like you had time for him. If these issues (often caused by the existence of small children!) have gone away, then he has no reason to go looking outside the marriage now or in the future. 2. an emotional affair is less likely to be replaced with the next woman, and the next, and the next, than a sexual one. Men will have sex with just about anything and so if he was going outside the marriage for JUST sex, then you could never be sure he wouldn’t do it again and it would be almost im
