What is “Gaslighting”?
Submitted by nandav A: This term is taken from the movie “Gaslight” where the husband (Charles Boyer) tries to make his wife (Ingrid Bergman) think she is going mad by convincing her what she thinks she is seeing isn’t real. When the WS is either caught or suspected, he/she may try to convince the BS that they are not seeing what they think they see or that something didn’t happen, even though everything points to the fact that it DID happen. We have heard stories where the BS has even walked in on the WS and OP “in the act”, yet the WS still denies that anything was going on. It is an effort on the WS part to completely deny even the most obvious evidence, and to make the BS feel that they must be seeing things. Sometimes, probably because the BS is so desperate to NOT believe what they are seeing, the strategy works. This may be part of “the fog”, when the WS is not ready to accept responsibility for what happened. Or in some cases, the unrepentant WS may do this so that they can con
